What Should I Do When My Husband Won’t Have Sex With Me?

Human males over the age of 13 have got be among the horniest creatures on this planet. Every one of them has a constant need for sex pretty much until the day they die. Sure, they may be able to go a little while without it, but long periods of time? No way. That’s one of the (many) reasons they have a wife. Nothing wrong with it, thats just how men are. Now consider in your situation- He’s not getting it from his wife, so where is he getting it from? It’s time to have a long talk with your husband before resentment, complacency and anger ruin your marriage. Make sure when you talk to him, there is open communication from both of you. Ask him what you can do to turn him on, and don’t immediately shoot down his reasoning. That will only put up a wall for him to not be honest with you now, and in the future. And I hate to bring it up, but one of the most common reasons for men not to have sex with their wives is because they aren’t attracted to them any longer. Consider, did you gain a few extra pound, or stop dressing nicely and keeping yourself up after you got married? Obviously you aren’t going to look like you did at 20 forever, especially after kids, but that is no excuse to have gained 50lbs and dress in sweats and baggy shirts all the time. I have heard of so many women doing this sort of thing, and it just turning their husband off to the point it ruins their marriage. That very well may be the reason as difficult as it may be to accept. If that happens to be something he brings up, don’t get offended. Instead, try to take it as him being honest (which is a very very good thing) and try to change it. If it is outside factor, like work or finances, try to find solutions. Perhaps he is working so much, he is honestly too tired to have sex at the end of the day.. Maybe if you dint work, you could pick up a part time job so he can spend less hours at the office. If it is finances putting stress on the marriage, maybe you can move into a smaller more affordable house, or give up a car to save money. Whatever the reason, try to address it and reach a compromise both of you can live with, so you can get back to being happy again. And as much as everyone is saying masturbation and vibrators, you will never get the same feeling you get having sex with your husband from either of those. So the best thing to do is fix your relationship so it is healthy again. Good luck.